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Hannah Sharma


How Important Are You, To You?

Why are we always able to find time for others but make excuses when it comes to prioritising ourselves? We have to stop feeling guilty for taking time for us. We have to stop labelling it as selfish. When we take care of ourselves, we help to limit our stress and simply put, we become better people. When I am in my best shape I can give better energy to those around me. It is not selfish, it is necessary and we should start to normalise this behaviour.

If you are guilty of not giving yourself the time you need you’ve probably used all the excuses in the book; no time, no break from the children, too much going on, other people need my help and so on and so on. If you start to shift your mindset and realise how important you are, you can start to prioritise you, without feeling guilty.

So what you can you do?

1) Firstly, block a time in the diary or calendar. By physically writing it down you are committing to yourself. Then you can work out what it is you want to give yourself time to do. Goal setting, therapy, walking, workouts, listening to your favourite album, baking, reading, coaching or getting in the bath. Write a list if it helps you work it out. Just taking ten minutes to think about you is a good step in the right direction. Keep it consistent by scheduling time for you as often as possible.

2) Realise the importance of sleep, healthy food, exercise and enough water every day. Taking care of your physical, mental and emotional health is an important part of prioritising yourself. Don’t feel like you have to do this all at once as it may seem a bit overwhelming if you’re not used to it. Take small steps to get you to where you need to be.

3) Stop doing the things that are not making you happy. You are allowed to say no without feeling guilty. The more things we take on for other people, the more stressed and unhappy we can become. Manage your time in a way that suits you so you can stay on your best form.

4) Start doing the things that you want to do. By thinking about yourself, cutting out the things in your day that are not serving you (we can all be guilty of mindlessly scrolling through social media for too long) you can instantly create more time for other things. Even if it is just for 5 minutes a day, make it a habit to make more time for the things that make a positive impact on your life.

So ask yourself - how important are you, to you? Imagine a point in time when you are consistently feeling on your best form. You are able to give your time and love to those around you in the way that you want. Begin to change your mindset; you deserve your own time and love just as much, if not more, than anyone else in your life.

"If you do not take control over your time and your life, other people will gobble it up. If you don’t prioritize yourself, you constantly start falling lower and lower on your list.” — Michelle Obama